How To Overcome Grief

How To Overcome Grief
There’s no doubt about it, that grief is one of the most uncomfortable emotions that anyone can experience.

How to overcome grief is a question that’s often asked after the loss of a family member, friend or someone else close to us.

Grief is an uncomfortable feeling and one that is not nice for any of us to experience and can also happen in a number of circumstances such as a child leaving home, moving jobs or a death, as well as other traumatic events, which can also cause us grief.

The following 10 tips will assist you in working your way through grief and aid in the grieving process.

1) Allow Time To Overcome Grief

You have to accept that grief is a strong emotion and overcoming it does not happen overnight. By trying to rush the process, i will likely hit you when you least expect it. So rather than trying to rush your way through it, give yourself the time neede to work through it.

There are various stages of the grieving process and you can never predict when the next stage will be reached. Start by taking a deep breath. Feel the emotions that come your way and don’t try to push them to one side.

The pain and intensity will subside in time. Just work through the process. Time is a great healer.

2) Look After Yourself

While going through the grieving process, you have to remember to take care of yourself. Eat correctly, be sociable, get some fresh air and have a good nights rested sleep. Shower and groom yourself as normal and get dressed, ready to take on the day.

Taking such steps put you in the frame of mind, of being human, normal and grounded. Of course we have to look after ourselves at all times, however it’s especially important through times of grief.

3) Don’t Bottle It Up

It can be very helpful talking about your grief with a loved one or a friend. Talk about how you are feeling and why you’re feeling them. I know it can be difficult, especially if others are suffering the same loss, but trust me, it helps.

If you’re unable to reach out to a friend or family member, then you could consider support groups, grief counselors, or possibly an online grief and loss forum.
Find ways to express your thoughts and feelings and talking about it, will help you to understand your emotions better and get through the grieving process.

4) Don’t Be Afraid To Ask For Help

counselorAs I touched on above, there are grief counselors and support groups available who can help.

Perhaps you’re feeling stuck in your grief and possibly need more than what your friends and family can offer, then please find an expert to help you through it.

There is nothing worse, than not been able to talk it through with someone and by getting in touch with someone who is trained in these matters, will help you to take stock of things in a different way.

There are many grief counselors available and they all have their own different approaches, so take your time, visit and talk to a few of them, them pick one n them to work with.

Find the right person (they are out there), who will help you through the grieving process and there is never any shame in asking for help.

5) You’ll Feel A Range of Emotions

Grief is more than just sadness.Often it’s anger, overwhelm, denial and often much more. There is no fixed side to it. One day you could be angry, the next sad, the following day back to been angry.

Grief is a definite process and everyone has their own different experience. There are no hard and fast rules to it. Even if you’ve been through it before, this time it could be completely different. You’ll not be able to predict it, so by expecting a range of emotions, will in some small way, kind of allow you to know what to expect.

You have to know it’s okay and you’re not losing your mind. It’s just another part of the grieving process.

6) Let The Emotions Flow

sad emotionsWhile grieving is uncomfortable, you could be tempted to push the feelings away. While other tend to depend on you to stay strong, you are more likely to put your feelings to one side and ignore them, feeling that you don’t have the time to focus on your own needs.

It’s all too common to say ‘I’ll deal with them later’, but by allowing your emotions to exist, means you will move through the process much more quickly, than if you allowed yourself to deal with the emotions as they occurred.

Sure, you don’t have to let them completely swallow your day, but instead give the emotion the time and attention it deserves.

If sadness hits you at some time in the day for example, then allow yourself 15-20 minutes to feel sad, have a cry and grieve, then get back to what you need to do.

7) There Is A Brighter Future

Life feels good when you have things to look forward to. It could be a holiday, a trip to see your favourite band or an experience. Who doesn’t want to try white water rafting … I know, it’s not everyone’s cup of tea, but you get the idea.

The event itself doesn’t have to be major of course, it could be a new book release, a nice hot bath, or even lunch with some friends.

Make little plans for things in your life to be excited about and will give you things to look forward to. Your excitement will translate back into your life and aid you through the grieving process.

8) Be Grateful

Even when times are dark, we can and should find things to be grateful – there’s always something. When the time is right, start to look for the things to be grateful for.

Every cloud, as they say – has a silver lining. Take a look at the people you have around you and the things you have in your life right now.

This will help you to feel connected, hopeful and even the strength you need to grieve. Read our Article: 10 Ways To Be Grateful And Embrace Gratitude

9) Experience Joy

happyYou work through your grief on a day by day basis. By finding little ways to experience joy, will help you reconnect with life and what is important.

When you’re grieving, it can somehow feel wrong to be seeking joy, but there was a life before the loss and there will be and is life again afterwards too.

Listen to one of your favourite songs. Go on a nature walk. Meet up with some friends who make you laugh. It is possible for joy and grief to exist alongside one another.

10) Go With The Flow

As the emotions appear, just go with them. It’s much easier to ride the wave and go with it, rather than trying to fight against them.

Accept that the feelings don’t totally go away, especially when it’s someone you have been so close to.

You know you will always miss that person and you could possibly find yourself grieving for them for many years once they’ve passed away.

The intensity of the grief does fade and over time, becomes more manageable.


Grief is something that is just part of being human. We will all experience it at some time in our lives. To help you through the process, embrace these 10 tips on how to overcome grief an they’ll help you work through the process.

It may seem difficult at times, but you’ll get through it and you’ll may just be able to help and talk to others, who have been or are going through the grieving process.

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  1. This is a very detailed article I wish I saw a few years ago. Getting help and having someone to talk things over with can be magical.

    I look back now and I feel sorry for my best friend who listened for long periods of time as I spoke about my mom who departed this life on earth. For me at the time, this was my best therapy. Whenever I spoke about mom, I felt like there was still a connection.

    Thanks Richard, for helping us in Cyber World.

    • Richard

      It always helps to have a friendly ear, even if it’s just there for acknowledgement. It’s never easy losing a loved one. Talking about it, rather than bottling it up, is always great therapy as it helps you understand and as I pit above, helps you process things. All the best Josephine and thanks so much for your support

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